Who?
Dungeons and conferences aren't the only ones who can book Devyn for a class; he offers private classes too! With the use of virtual platforms he can provide education to individuals as well.
When
Devyn is frequently available to teach classes virtually or in person! While his schedule changes he is always able to make time for a class or two. If anything, he prefers to do two or three in a day!
How Much?
You with the hard hitting questions, eh? It is true that Devyn is a professional educator and does this for a living. So, yes, he does have a speaking fee. However, he is always happy to work with individual budgets and non profit organizations.
Education, Leadership & Professional Development
Guidance for educators, organizers, and creatives seeking structure, skill, and sustainability.
Negotiation doesn’t stop at the dungeon door. In this class, educator and consultant Devyn Stone explores the nuanced art of negotiating between presenters and event producers. We’ll cover accessibility needs, compensation structures, boundaries, and realistic compromise—all through the lens of ethical professionalism and mutual respect. Designed for both educators refining their contracts and organizers developing fair practices, this class offers practical tools and insights for smoother collaborations and sustainable community relationships. Because in the world of kink education, negotiation is a skill that never stops evolving.
Great events don’t happen by accident—they’re built with intention and care. In this class, educator and event producer Devyn Stone shares practical tools for planning successful kink and BDSM gatherings of any size. Learn the essentials of budgeting, scheduling, accessibility, pricing, and booking education or entertainment. Whether you’re organizing a munch, discussion, or full-scale conference, you’ll gain strategies for both in-person and virtual formats. Attendees will leave with a clear roadmap for designing events that run smoothly, engage meaningfully, and serve their communities with excellence.
When you wear eighteen hats, chaos is inevitable—but it doesn’t have to be unmanageable. In this lively and practical class, educator and consultant Devyn Stone (the “Mad Hatter” himself) shares the systems, strategies, and tools that keep his multifaceted life in motion. From event production to service dynamics, neurodivergent workflow hacks to everyday organization, this class offers something for everyone who’s balancing multiple passions or responsibilities. Equal parts structure and silliness, it’s a guide to turning overwhelm into momentum—because managing madness can be an art form.
Online events can be just as powerful as in-person ones when they’re designed with care. In this class, educator Devyn Stone, Executive Producer of the THRIVE Conference, breaks down the essentials of planning and executing virtual events. Learn how to manage budgets, accessibility, marketing, scheduling, and presenter coordination for digital spaces. Whether you’re expanding an existing event or starting fresh online, you’ll leave with practical tools to make your virtual productions engaging, inclusive, and unforgettable.
Education within kink and BDSM communities is often unregulated, informal, and deeply needed. In this comprehensive class, educator and consultant Devyn Stone distills over a decade of teaching experience into a clear, empowering roadmap for those looking to share their knowledge with integrity. We’ll explore everything from developing classes and building materials to negotiating with event producers, managing logistics, marketing ethically, and setting firm boundaries. Whether you’re a seasoned educator or just beginning to find your voice, this class offers practical tools and grounded wisdom for teaching with clarity, confidence, and community care.
Self-publishing doesn’t have to be mysterious. In this lecture, educator and author Devyn Stone—self-published almost a dozen times—walks you step by step from idea to release. We’ll cover scoping your topic, outlining, drafting habits, and an editing pipeline (peer reviewers, editors, etc). Then we’ll demystify formatting for print and ebook, distribution options (KDP, Lulu), pricing, and simple launch and marketing. Whether this is your first manuscript or your next, you’ll leave with a clear roadmap, pitfalls to avoid, and confident next steps to get your book into readers’ hands.
Branding yourself in kink and alternative spaces can feel overwhelming—but it doesn’t have to. In this fun, fast-paced class, educator and consultant Devyn Stone shares real-world strategies for marketing, promotion, and online presence that stay true to who you are. We’ll discuss authenticity, accessibility, and sustainability in social media, websites, and personal branding—plus a few of Devyn’s favorite tricks for letting your freak flag fly with confidence. Designed for educators, event producers, and creators alike, this class offers tools to stand out without selling out.
Community, Culture, & Equity
Centering inclusion, access, and identity within Leather, kink, and organizational spaces.
Whether it’s your first event or your fiftieth, conference prep can make or break your weekend. In this light-hearted and practical class, educator and author Devyn Stone, author of A Quick Reference Guide to BDSM Convention Preparation, shares tried-and-true strategies for getting the most out of any kink or Leather event. From budgeting and packing to navigating schedules, play spaces, and downtime, we’ll cover everything you need to arrive confident and prepared. You’ll leave with tips, tricks, and checklists to help you stress less, connect more, and truly enjoy your next big adventure.
You’ve caught a whiff of Leather—and something in you wants to know more. In this foundational class, Leatherman and educator Devyn Stone offers an approachable introduction to Leather as identity, culture, and community. We’ll explore common language, core values, and the traditions that have shaped Leather life over generations. Brief historical context will ground our discussion, but the focus is on what it means to live Leather today. Whether you’re brand new or simply curious, this class provides the context, vocabulary, and perspective to begin walking your own path into Leather.
Access is more than a checklist—it’s a commitment. In this audience-driven discussion, DEI consultant and educator Devyn Stone invites community members, organizers, and attendees alike to share experiences, challenges, and ideas for creating more accessible kink and Leather spaces. Together, we’ll discuss physical, financial, sensory, and systemic barriers to participation, as well as strategies for building events and organizations that welcome everyone. Participants are invited (but never required) to share experiences, questions, and reflections. This roundtable is a space for honesty, creativity, and collaboration toward a more inclusive community.
Attending a kink or Leather conference with a partner, household, or team takes coordination, intention, and a whole lot of prep. In this class, educator and event producer Devyn Stone, author of A Quick Reference Guide to BDSM Convention Preparation, walks attendees through every stage of the journey—from deciding to go, to packing, budgeting, traveling, and providing service throughout the event. Whether you’re in a power exchange dynamic, part of an organization, or just want to serve better at large events, this class offers practical tools for creating smoother, more connected conference experiences.
Equity and inclusion aren’t abstract ideals—they’re daily practices we can all learn to build. In this practical and empowering class, DEI consultant and author Devyn Stone, author of The Affirming Handbook: A Quick and Practical Reference Guide for Leaders and Organizers, shares real-world strategies for creating spaces where every individual can thrive. Through discussion and reflection, we’ll explore actionable ways to integrate justice, equity, diversity, and inclusion into events, organizations, and communities—both within and beyond kink spaces. Whether you’re a new leader or a seasoned organizer, this class offers tangible tools to make “affirming” more than a word—it’s a way of working.
The language of gender and identity is always evolving—and that’s a beautiful thing. In this interactive class, educator and consultant Devyn Stone, author of A Quick Reference Guide to Gender Affirming BDSM, guides participants through key terms, concepts, and common misconceptions about gender, pronouns, and expression. Together, we’ll explore how to navigate language with respect and confidence, practice inclusive interactions, and build skills for genuine allyship. Participation is encouraged, and questions are welcome in this affirming space.
Content Notice: discussion includes transgender topics, dysphoria, misgendering, and gendered anatomy.
So, you’ve discovered your kinky side and stumbled into a world full of possibility—and confusion. Where do you even begin? In this approachable and informative class, educator and author Devyn Stone offers a roadmap for understanding the language, culture, and consent frameworks that shape today’s BDSM and kink communities. We’ll cover key terminology, risk models, negotiation basics, and what it means to find (or build) your place in the scene. Whether you’re brand new or recalibrating your path, this class helps you navigate the twists, turns, and unexpected detours on your journey into kink.
Stigma still shadows mental health and neurodivergence—even in communities that champion consent and inclusion. Devyn Stone, DEI consultant, producer of the THRIVE conference, and author of The Affirming Handbook, examines how frameworks like SSC, RACK, and the DSM have shaped perceptions of “safety” and “sanity” in kink. This lecture offers practical strategies to challenge bias, expand accessibility, and build more affirming, justice-centered spaces for all minds.
Content Notice: discussion includes mental health, neurodivergence, stigma, and systemic bias.
Language shapes the spaces we create—and every word carries weight. In this thought-provoking lecture, DEI consultant and author Devyn Stone, author of The Affirming Handbook: A Quick and Practical Reference Guide for Leaders and Organizers, explores how intentional language can align our communication with our values. Through powerful examples and real-world context, Devyn unpacks how words can harm or heal, exclude or affirm, and offers practical ways to speak and write with clarity, care, and impact. This class challenges you to rethink your everyday language and empowers you to create truly affirming spaces through your words.
Content Notice: discussion includes examples of harmful language.
Are you a queer and/or trans person who’s curious about Leather and what it’s all about? Is Leather just for show, or is there more beneath the surface of the hide? What if you’re vegan and you dig the appeal — can that even be rectified? Whether you’re curious or deeply interested to get into Leather, this class is for you! Join Devyn Stone and his property, Guan-Xuan, for a dialogue about Leather for queer and trans folks. Topics explored and discussed include working definitions of Leather, Leather’s current connections with the queer and trans communities, and how Leather manifests in everyday life. Participants are encouraged to partake in an open dialogue about the ins and outs of Leather in the queer and trans community. Questions and curiosity about Leather are heartily welcomed here!
Foundations of Authority Transfer
Exploring structure, self-awareness, and the building blocks of authority transfer.
Authority transfer dynamics are built on trust, clarity, and consent—but what do they actually mean in practice? In this foundational class, Leatherman and educator Devyn Stone introduces the core principles, language, and philosophies that define authority exchange relationships. We’ll explore what makes these dynamics work, how to negotiate them ethically, and how to recognize both their power and their responsibility. Whether you’re new to structured dynamics or refining an existing one, this class offers practical tools and insight for building authority-based relationships that are intentional, sustainable, and fulfilling.
Nonmonogamy can be beautifully complex—and sometimes a little chaotic. In this engaging presentation, educator and coach Devyn Stone shares his practical systems for organizing, prioritizing, and nurturing multiple relationships and dynamics. From scheduling and communication tools to emotional bandwidth and boundary management, you’ll discover new ways to bring structure to your connections without losing the spark. Whether you’re balancing power exchange, egalitarian partnerships, or something in between, this class offers adaptable strategies for keeping your ducks in a row and your heart in the game.
Drawn from his book Why I Don’t Own Them… Yet, educator and author Devyn Stone expands on the concept of “areas of control”—the parts of life where authority can be ethically exercised within an authority transfer dynamic. From medical decisions and appearance to education, diet, and beyond, this class invites participants to examine how control is negotiated, structured, and sustained. Whether you’re new to authority transfer or refining a long-standing relationship, you’ll leave with practical tools and a clearer understanding of how to balance autonomy, consent, and ownership in daily life.
What does it mean to live a dynamic with no way out? In this immersive class, Devyn Stone and his property Guan-Xuan, share their lived experience in a 24/7 total authority transfer dynamic. The class unfolds in three parts: their personal story of becoming and belonging, an honest look behind the curtain at how the dynamic functions day-to-day, and an open AMA where no question is off-limits. This session offers an unflinching, real-world exploration of acceptance, devotion, and the deep bond for this unique couple.
What does it truly mean to lead with confidence, clarity, and care? In this practical and empowering class, educator and coach Devyn Stone shares insights from years of experience guiding others through power exchange and authority dynamics. Participants will explore different types of dominance, leadership styles, and the skills that build trust and structure. We’ll also examine common myths and misconceptions about what it means to be “in charge.” Whether you’re new to dominance or refining your approach, you’ll leave with concrete tools for designing intentional, sustainable dynamics in real life.
Finding the right person—or people—to share your passion for authority transfer can be a wild and rewarding journey. In this introspective class, educator and coach Devyn Stone offers a practical framework for understanding your needs, wants, and capacities before you seek a partner or dynamic. Using guided reflection and real-world insight, Devyn helps attendees clarify what fulfillment looks like, identify red flags, and design dynamics aligned with their authentic selves. Whether you’re a Dominant, submissive, unsure, and/or a switch, this class offers tools for building connection with clarity and purpose.
What happens when power, devotion, and spirituality intertwine? In this thought-provoking class, Leatherman and educator Devyn Stone explores spiritual authority transfer—the dynamics where a Master or Dominant is imbued with religious or divine significance. We’ll examine the philosophy, psychology, and theology behind deification in power exchange, as well as the balance between faith, fantasy, and human imperfection. Through both inspiring and cautionary examples, Devyn guides participants across the slash in exploring how spiritual frameworks can deepen—or destabilize—authority transfer relationships.
Like a good pie, every power dynamic needs the right ingredients—a solid foundation, a flavorful filling, and maybe even a little flair on top. In this engaging class, Leatherman and educator Devyn Stone, author of A Quick Reference Guide to Protocol, explores how protocols can create structure, expression, and meaning within authority exchange. Participants will learn the fundamentals of practical protocol design, including how to build, sustain, and adapt them to fit real life. Whether you crave strict formality or subtle ritual, this class helps you discover what kind of “pie” best nourishes your dynamic. (Actual pie not included—but enthusiasm is encouraged!)
Authority transfer thrives on intention, consistency, and structure—but keeping track of every ritual, protocol, and preference can feel like a full-time job. In this practical class, educator and author Devyn Stone, author of A Quick Reference Guide to Organizational Authority Transfer, shares tools and systems to help your dynamic run smoothly and stress-free. From digital trackers to communication templates, we’ll explore ways to document progress, manage expectations, and maximize time together. Whether you’re navigating one relationship or several, you’ll leave with strategies to keep your authority transfer both grounded and efficient.
Radical Ownership is a framework for building trauma-informed, neurodiversity-affirming dynamics. Coined by Devyn Stone and his property Guan-Xuan, this approach reimagines authority transfer through the lens of accountability, communication, and equity. In this immersive intensive, they share the philosophy and practices that shaped their own “no way out” dynamic, guiding participants to design relationships rooted in self-awareness and consent. Topics include trauma, neurodivergence, attachment, and sustainable authority. Open to all, regardless of role or relationship style, this class invites you to explore what Radical Ownership can mean in your own life and dynamic.
Content Notice: discussion includes trauma and neurodivergence.
Not every Daddy fits the soft-and-sweet stereotype—and that’s okay. This discussion is for those who enjoy a heavy dose of humiliation and degradation in their age play dynamics. Leatherman and educator Devyn Stone shares his experiences as an unorthodox Daddy—the one who aggressively puts his little’s hair in pigtails, rolls his eyes at stuffies, and still finds deep connection in the chaos. Together, we’ll explore how humor, resistance, and trust can coexist when play gets messy, and why there just might be a little out there for every kind of Daddy.
Content Notice: discussion includes age play, humiliation, and degradation.
Connection is more than chemistry; it’s the pattern beneath how we love, trust, and hold one another. In this lecture, educator and coach Devyn Stone unpacks the psychology of attachment and how it shapes our relationships and dynamics. We’ll explore how early experiences influence our attachment styles, what ethical connection looks like in power exchange, and how to recognize the line between interdependence and codependence. Attendees will leave with insight into their own attachment patterns and practical tools for building dynamics grounded in awareness, consent, and emotional balance.
Content Notice: discussion includes attachment, trauma, and relational patterns.
In a culture that often expects Dominants to be stoic and self-contained, what does it look like to receive care from the right side of the slash? In this candid class, Devyn Stone and his property, Guan-Xuan, share their lived experience in a 24/7 Owner/property dynamic built around the concept of supportive surrender. Together, they explore how vulnerability, trust, and emotional support can strengthen authority transfer relationships. Attendees will learn practical ways to offer and receive support across power roles—and are invited (but never required) to ask questions throughout this rare, open conversation.
Long-distance dynamics get plenty of attention—but what about relationships that are close without being cohabitating? Short-distance authority transfer presents its own unique challenges: maintaining ritual, structure, and intimacy while living in separate spaces. In this class, educator and coach Devyn Stone explores practical ways to sustain connection and consistency, from visiting etiquette and mantra use to communication protocols and technology-based rituals. Attendees will leave with tangible strategies to keep their authority transfer relationships steady and intentional, even when they aren’t under the same roof.
Authority transfer doesn’t start with a collar—it starts with self-awareness, communication, and compatibility. In this lecture, Leatherman and educator Devyn Stone presents a practical framework for building intentional, ethical dynamics. Based on the concepts that later inspired his book Why I Don’t Own Them…Yet, Devyn outlines the phases of negotiation, compatibility assessment, and ongoing self-reflection that create a foundation for sustainable authority transfer. Attendees will leave with a clearer sense of what they want, the tools to create it with intention, and the confidence to pursue authority transfer that’s sustainable and self-aware.
What happens when two cultures—and two power philosophies—collide within a single dynamic? In this thought-provoking class, Devyn Stone and his property, Guan-Xuan, share their lived experience as a White, transgender male Dominant and an Asian, nonbinary property navigating authority transfer across cultural lines. Together, they explore how Eastern and Western traditions shape concepts like power, service, and surrender, offering insight into blending heritage, identity, and devotion. This class provides a rare, authentic perspective on what it means to create harmony between difference, and how culture itself can become a language of connection.
Communication, Consent, & Relationships
Developing equity, accountability, and connection within kink and everyday life.
Negotiation isn’t just about knowing what you like—it’s about knowing yourself. In this interactive workshop, Devyn Stone explores the deeper skills behind effective negotiation: cultivating agency, clarifying desires, and setting firm, flexible boundaries. Together, we’ll unpack the art of saying “no,” recognizing when you truly mean “yes,” and communicating needs without apology or hesitation. Whether you’re navigating scenes, dynamics, or daily life, this class offers practical tools to strengthen autonomy and confidence—so you can build connections grounded in consent, clarity, and self-trust.
Empathy shapes how we connect, communicate, and care for one another—but what happens when we experience it differently? In this engaging lecture, educator and coach Devyn Stone examines the complex role of empathy in relationships of all kinds. Together, we’ll explore what empathy really is (and isn’t), whether it’s necessary for healthy connection, and how people who struggle with empathy can still build ethical, fulfilling relationships. Attendees will leave with a clearer understanding of emotional attunement, new ways to interpret others’ feelings, and tools for building connection rooted in honesty and self-awareness.
No matter which side of the slash you fall on, power exchange begins with self-understanding. In this reflective and approachable class, educator and coach Devyn Stone guides participants through the journey toward genuine self-awareness—exploring personality, attachment, motivation, and emotional patterns. Together, we’ll unpack how self-knowledge shapes connection, conflict, and collaboration in dynamics. Sometimes looking in the mirror can be rough, but Devyn’s framework makes the process accessible, compassionate, and transformative. Because when we know ourselves, we negotiate, serve, and lead with greater integrity and intention.
Negotiation and play don’t happen in a vacuum—so whose job is it to manage risk, consent, and aftercare? In this thoughtful and accessible class, educator and author Devyn Stone, author of A Quick Reference Guide to Personal Responsibility in BDSM Negotiations, breaks down the shared and individual responsibilities that make scenes ethical and sustainable. Designed for both newcomers and experienced players, this class examines how self-awareness, communication, and accountability form the foundation of every dynamic. Come learn how responsibility isn’t just protection—it’s power.
Narcissists have a terrible reputation—but the reality is far more complex. In this honest and stigma-breaking class, educator and advocate Devyn Stone, diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, shares lived experience and insight into loving and being loved with NPD. We’ll explore what NPD really is (and isn’t), how it intersects with neurodivergence, and what compassion, accountability, and connection can look like in these relationships. Whether you have NPD, recognize narcissistic traits in yourself, or love someone who does, this class invites understanding and real conversation beyond the stereotypes.
Edgeplay, Storytelling & Personal Exploration
Diving into fear, vulnerability, and the psychology of play and identity.
“This is not a class. It’s not a workshop. It is something different.” In this keynote-style presentation, educator and advocate Devyn Stone shares his journey through abuse, poverty, disability, and identity, offering insight, inspiration, and hard-earned truth. With openness and courage, Devyn invites listeners into a space of honesty, resilience, and reflection. This story is raw, real, and deeply human—a reminder that even in the darkest places, we can still find connection and strength.
Content Notice: discussion includes trauma, disability, and mental health experiences.
Before writing DAMN! That’s a Nice Ash!, Leatherman and educator Devyn Stone developed his signature “Cigar and a Show” style—an elevated, theatrical form of cigar service that blends precision, sensuality, and performance. In this class, he reveals the techniques and mindset behind his famous approach, from presentation to flair and the unforgettable “show” that makes cigar service an art form. Designed for those ready to move beyond the basics, this session invites attendees to add confidence, creativity, and heat to their cigar scenes.
Before it became his book DAMN! That’s a Nice Ash!, this class introduced audiences to the artistry of cigar service and play. In it, Leatherman and educator Devyn Stone shares the foundational skills and philosophy behind his signature approach to cigars—covering cutting, lighting, negotiation, and presentation. Blending tradition, connection, and sensual ritual, this session invites attendees to explore cigars as a medium for service, intimacy, and pleasure within Leather culture.
With humor, honesty, and heart, educator and advocate Devyn Stone shares his personal journey as a transgender man navigating identity, discovery, and self-acceptance. Through stories from childhood, adolescence, and adulthood, Devyn reflects on the moments that shaped his understanding of gender and authenticity. This presentation offers insight into the challenges and joys of transition, inviting attendees to witness one man’s evolution in a world still learning how to see him. It’s raw, real, and a reminder that every journey toward truth deserves to be heard.
Content Notice: discussion includes gender identity and transition.
Some fantasies live in the shadows—and that’s where their power lies. In this audience-driven discussion, Leatherman and educator Devyn Stone creates a space for honest conversation about the kinks and dynamics many hesitate to name. Together, we’ll explore the psychology, ethics, and attraction behind taboo play, including fear, humiliation, degradation, and consensual non-consent. Participants are invited (but never required) to share experiences, questions, and reflections. This discussion honors curiosity, respect, and the freedom to explore what draws us toward the edges of our desire.
Content Notice: discussion may mention torture, abuse, and trauma.
There’s a particular thrill to knife play—the cool edge, the rising pulse, the deliberate control. In this class, Leatherman and educator Devyn Stone shares practical frameworks for navigating knife play with skill and awareness. We’ll cover tool selection, negotiation, and risk mitigation, plus techniques for creating intensity through precision rather than danger. A live demonstration may occur depending on venue and other considerations; if time allows, participants may be invited to feel a knife sensation with explicit consent.
Content Notice: discussion may include knife play, blood, and fear play.
*not suited for virtual spaces*
Want your scenes to look intense, feel real, and still mitigate risk? In this hands-on class, Leatherman and educator Devyn Stone teaches the art of illusion through stage combat, fake blood, and cinematic effects. You’ll learn how to design high-impact scenes that captivate partners and bystanders alike—without crossing into real harm. Perfect for those who love fear, drama, or spectacle, this class combines creativity with consent, giving you practical tools to craft scenes that thrill, unsettle, and mesmerize. Bring your curiosity and your sense of play—the show is about to begin.
*not suited for virtual spaces*
Gather ‘round for a different kind of bedtime story! In this cozy, creepy session, SirHorror reads horror-themed tales crafted for littles and anyone who loves a good spooky giggle. Expect eerie twists, playful frights, and lots of laughter as we explore how fear can be fun when it’s all make-believe. Stuffies welcome—but beware of what goes bump in the story!
Content Note: Contains mild horror themes and spooky storytelling. No actual fear play or edgeplay elements are included.
Fear. Terror. Horror. These deliciously dreadful sensations aren’t just for haunted houses and horror flicks—they’re tools of tension, trust, and twisted delight. In this frightfully fun class, Leatherman and educator Devyn Stone (aka SirHorror) unearths the secrets of fear play: how to summon atmosphere, build suspense, and make your partner’s pulse race in all the right ways. Whether you giggle at jump scares or crave the creeping thrill of dread, you’ll leave cackling with new ideas (and maybe a chill down your spine). Come for the goosebumps, stay for the giggles—let’s play in the dark together!
Content Notice: discussion includes fear, trauma and psychological triggers.